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The WHY thinking method that the Jews exercise every day: 34-question walkthroughs that allow you to think rationally and talk about everything bravely

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The WHY thinking method that the Jews exercise every day: 34-question walkthroughs that allow you to think rationally and talk about everything bravely

Shijiao Waner

Introduction to this Book Recommended Contents

Argument is the source of wisdom for the Jews

Their arguments never fall into emotional "arguments"

But keep the central thinking of "why" in order to see the truth

The Jewish people who founded Facebook, Google, Dell, and Intel firmly believe that most things in the world do not have the correct answer, and mainstream interpretations may be overturned tomorrow. Only by cultivating a sense of problems and raising doubts in the information reported by the media and in the life issues around you, then you can think rationally and see through appearances in the face of everything.

It's easy to improve thinking! Instead of staring at the file and trying to break your head, start with "Why?"

step 1. Ask everything, don't be afraid of "insolence"

Those who are good at detecting and observing may have no tendency to think. Proposal talents who dare to question existing decisions are more sought after than being ordered to execute through.

Step 2. Find your argument

The argument leads the direction of thinking. Accepting any knowledge from a critical point of view fosters a sense of problem and the conversation goes straight to the core.

Step 3. Don't let success fetter you

Intel abandoned its strengths and turned to unfamiliar areas to become the world hegemon. Don't let the rule of thumb and "always" ideas hinder your next success.

Step 4. Put emotions aside

The more emotional the topic, the easier it is for the author to lead the way. One way to cultivate rational decision-making power: first think from the perspective of opposition to the public.

Step 5. The scope of the argument must be clear

The goal of thinking must be within your ability, without drawing a big pie, and firmly believe in the immediate profit.

Step 6. Ask "how" rather than "why"

In a time of change, when sales skills do not help performance, and memorization of laws does not help win the lawsuit, grasping the "essence" of human nature and legislation is the shortest success path.

Step 7. Handle tricky issues from another angle

Job search bumps, interpersonal troubles? Change the timeline of thinking, let you get rid of the current deadlock, and think flexibly about countermeasures.

Step 8. Making money by trying to understand people

Free apps, museums do not charge tickets, not only maintain business but also earn more. Observe the psychology behind human behavior at any time, you can be moved by the market again.

Step 9. Organize your values

What is most important? Keep talking and find the main axis of your thinking.

The only way to avoid unthinking: treat everything around you as the object of discussion. Aiming at the problem, not going around, and freely switching viewpoints, as long as you follow the nine principles of Jewish thinking, it will not be a problem from a few years old.

※ This book is "Be brave about everything! : A New Version of "Why Thinking" Exercised by Jews Every Day

── || Features of this Book || ──

1. Stories are mostly taken from Jewish classic stories, training thinking skills from stories :

The 34-question exercise in each chapter quotes the Hebrew Bible, the Jewish Code, social events, and business examples, etc., which are close to our daily life, for readers to think about their own answers first, and then contrast with the common Jewish arguments.

2. Against the eloquent Jewish nation vs. the oriental society that is good at reading atmosphere

For example, is the self-denial and salvation incident praised by the Japanese media commendable to Jews? Example 2: Which innovation is more beneficial to the world, such as a robot that helps print information and a contact lens that detects blood sugar from tears?

3. Think clearly about the nine principles, and follow them :

Readers only need to chew these rules of argument and re-examine things that are taken for granted in life, to cultivate independent thinking and get rid of the difficulties faced by the workplace and life.

── || Professional recommendation || ──   (Sort by name strokes)

Storyteller / NeKo

Founder of Fresh Books / Liu Junyou (Fish)

Xie Borang, Associate Professor, Department of Psychology, National Taiwan University, and Author of A Brief History of the Brain

Recommended order thinking more carefully, take for granted

Recommended sequence When you question even God, you are a qualified Jew

Foreword: Start talking now Introduction: Think "why" about anything

Lesson 1 : Talk about everything <br /> Exercise 1∣ Answer your child's questions

Why should we question common sense? / Experiential inference is not thinking / cultivating a discussion atmosphere from your side

Exercise 2∣ Questioning God's Will

Rethink common sense, expert opinion

Exercise 3 Who can we owe the credit to?

Arguing, taking you out of desperation / logical victory / questioning, is more important than answering correctly / politeness restricts thinking instead

Exercise 4: Fight with God

Dare to propose upwards / Don't be afraid to ask questions

Lesson 2 : Finding Your Own Arguments
Practice 5 Talking Flies

You can start discussions on any topic / Cultivate the consciousness of the "why" problem / The argument is clear, and the thinking goes deeper.

Exercise 6: Questioning "Genesis"

Do you have to think about something that has nothing to do with me? / The correct answer is what you figured out / Practicing criticizing each word while reading / Silence cannot bring happiness closer

Whose fault is Exercise 7?

Focus on a topic from multiple perspectives

Lesson 3 : The Frame of Thinking
Exercise 8∣ Order of Teaching Materials

Copying success and following previous examples may be without thinking / Intel's decision to abandon merit

Exercise 9: Should I celebrate the holiday?

Why are Jews used to say "No" first?

Practice 10∣ Moses crossing the sea

Presupposes "impossible" to have happened / conceived: how can it happen?


Lesson 4 : Not controlled by emotions <br /> Practice 11

On the other hand, think calmly / discuss and form your values

Practice 12 magpies and birds

To prevent emotional involvement, propose leadership based on / determined in the dispute

Practice 13 ∣ Fox and Grape Field

Rather than trying hard, face up to the risks / enhance logic and start by examining information

Exercise 14: Abortion requirements

Whenever there is emotion, think about the meaning of the other party's words

Lesson 5 : "Everything is OK"
Exercise 15: Rewarding anxiety in the hospitality, making you unable to make money

Practice 16 Napoleon and herring

Determine the core of your business

Practice 17∣ Magic Pomegranate

How past merit has become a hindrance / decision


Lesson 6 : Ask the fundamental value before stopping <br /> Exercise 18∣Inventing innovative products

Two goals / existing answers for robot development need to be discussed? / How did the rules in this world come?

Practice 19∣ The world of light and darkness to understand our world

Practice 20 Truth of Noah's Ark

Find the root and follow it / Rather than asking "how" rather than "Why" / The shortest way to success: Master the essence


Lesson 7 : See things from a different perspective <br /> Exercise 21∣A falling apple

Start with a problem, not a solution


Practice 22 ∣ calf and weasel

Get rid of the "victim" perspective, find the best way to live / learn to think: restrictions / restrictions bring efficiency

Exercise 23∣Doctrine or work?

Obstacles may be future help / dilemmas, self-identified / never seen in front of decisions

Practice 24∣Two Thieves

Thinking, not from one's own perspective

Practice 25∣ Soldier with Passport

Cooperate with the enemy

Exercise 26: The End of Life

Change your perspective in good times

Lesson 8 : Mastering humanity to predict the future <br /> Practice 27 stolen <Mona Lisa>

The key to doing business / human nature has not changed

Exercise 28: In addition to being practical, why do people pay for it? / Practice doubting your point

Practice 29∣Two beggars

Thinking about the difference between human nature and fraud / What kind of tax payment method is more popular? / Make more money without fees and use human psychology

Lesson 9 : Having Strong Values <br /> Practice 30 Criticism of Whaling Criticism A strong value claim is strong / constantly asking questions to find your own values

Exercise 31∣ The divorce book of ancient Jews

Practice 32 Yak and Donkey?

Think about the philosophy behind the problem / find the right argument and ask "why" exercise from the moment

Practice 33 Yak and Donkey?

Firm values that allow you to discuss logic / Find out the basis on which values can stand the test / Never be silent

Exercise 34∣ Which one is the sacred calf?

Essential thinking takes you to the future / brave your doubts / use thinking analysis to predict the future

Concluding remarks are brave enough to challenge the status quo in order to make extraordinary

Recommended Preface I think more carefully, take for granted

I believe that by giving Jews more time, the secrets of the universe will be unlocked or questioned by them.

As for the national nature of their non-stop questions, I can only describe them with sincerity and fear. It is a pity that today's education not only gives up asking questions, but also keeps children away from books and words, and directly gives up the starting point of thinking about enlightenment. Even though it's so easy to get information now, everyone is devouring information as if they have missed it. I can hardly remember when I suspected the information at hand.

The ancients said that it is better to have no letter than to have no book. Except for the exam, you have forgotten how to fill in the blanks in real life. We avoid problems, and sometimes just subconsciously avoid disputes and troubles. When asked as a child, their elders will be labeled "naughty", and when they grow up, their peers will be labeled "troubled". In the end we didn't think at all, and it didn't motivate us to think.

I believe that text is not the only drug that can do speculation, but it is the simplest way. The most surprising story in the book is the possibility in the Hebrew Bible of Moses and God's fierce arguing to bring everyone out of Egypt. Of course, we know that Moses was out of the mission in the end, but the other side is a god, isn't he worried that saying one more word will make God unhappy?

It can be seen from this book that it is not just Jews, but also a comparison of thinking habits between Eastern and Western cultures. LINE 群組轉傳假消息。 Blindly believe that not only happens in religion, public opinion or news, but also many people inadvertently relay false news in the LINE group. These are all fake news that can be found in a matter of minutes, but how many people don't think about receiving it instead of doubting it? I think the former is the majority.

What this generation needs is a different voice, a brain with changeable thinking, and the courage to seek newness and change. I don't know why the big environment seems to prefer modularization? Let everyone be the same, then there will be constant "Why am I unhappy?" "Should I continue to stay in this job" confusion, give up thinking is equivalent to give up life; on the contrary, you can pick up again when you start thinking Some fragments of life, even the precise and delicate thinking, may see some possibilities that others have not expected.

This is why, about 40% of the world's well-known successful people are Jews! When you ask questions, you also need to know how to get to the point. Questions not only help you to confuse yourself, awaken the world, but also establish your own values and beliefs.

The book uses a large number of story examples for easy reading. I put this book into a good book list to get up every morning and quickly turn on my head. Readers might as well read one or two small stories with a relaxed attitude every day and help themselves to change the head of a successful person.

嗚喵/說書人 NeKo woo meow / storyteller

Recommendation # 2 When you question even God, you are a qualified Jew

Netflix 上映的電影《原鑽》,由亞當山德勒( Adam Sandler )主演的鑽石商人,就是猶太人。 My latest impression of the Jews was from the Netflix movie "Raw Diamonds". The diamond merchant starring Adam Sandler is Jews. I was impressed by a scene where the entire family of the protagonist gathered for the Passover dinner. Everyone ruled out all possible difficulties. Even the debtor and the debtor were forced to eat together in peace, showing how important this festival is. .

But you know what? Passover is a holiday that requires cleaning your home. You must also remove the yeast from your home so that even a little bread crumbs or grains cannot be left on the ground.

Let's think about it. Suppose you are a Jew. If the day before the Passover, a mouse with a small loaf appeared in your house, crossed the living room, and then ran out of the hole. At this time, you will ignore the situation and rest assured Festival? Or will the house be cleaned again?

It sounds like a thought experiment, but this is what the Jewish Code explores. A logical discussion of religious classics in everyday life? This is where the Jews are interesting. Without reading this book, I really don't know that the Jews are so exaggerated.

Let me give another example. There is an exercise in the book asking you to question God's will. The title is like this, in the "Exodus" era, the Jews were Egyptian slaves. One day, God suddenly came to Moses' eyes, and God said to him, "Go to Egypt and save all the Jews." Moses said :"This is impossible."

The author asked us to answer this question at this time. On what basis did Moses disagree? Normally, the direction of this story should be that Moses took God's request without hesitation, and took the holy relic given by God to embark on a difficult journey to rescue soldier Ren.

The myths of the Jews are not the same. Moses was very rational for a seven-day discussion with God. I saw that it was silly here. Isn't this an emergency? Can it be discussed in such a rational way? After reading the following chapters, I slowly realized why it took a whole book to explain the logic of Jewish thinking.

Speculation is a part of Jewish life, and I especially like to discuss the content of the Jewish Code and the Hebrew Bible. As a Taiwanese, it may be hard to imagine who will be fine when discussing the Bible or the Prajna Paramita while eating.

Another thing that attracts me in the book is that the author was born in Japan and later converted to Judaism to become a Jew, so he can understand the difference between the nationality of the Japanese and the Jew. He is still a lawyer by profession. His deliberations on debate and in-depth thinking also surpass ordinary people. He can also see the ability of Jews to think about things from different dimensions.

For the debate, I think it ’s not just the Japanese who do n’t like conflict and expressing their opinions. Most people in Taiwan are also humble and harmonious. In contrast, I am a person who prefers to ask “why”, and often asks why. I want to know what the other person thinks about something and delve deeper into the nature of things. But such questioning often invites people to misunderstand. Is it aimed at him, why do you want to achieve this level, can't you chat and discuss well?

Not to fight for nationality or personality, but it is also mentioned in the book that questioning the nature of things not only helps to break away from the frame, it is the seed of innovation, seeing the nature of things, finding the underlying logic, and more effectively solution. Let it go ,想要和氣生財,很有可能就失去了「思考生財」「創意生財」的機會。 From the perspective of Jewish thinking, let it go for everything . If you want to make money with harmony, you will most likely lose the opportunity to "think about making money" and "creative making money."

idea I was once told by a creative director that he would learn French. He just wanted to change his thinking logic and allow himself to enter the French identity. Through the French head, he wanted to appear in his unexpected creative ideas .

I think this book is to give you a Jewish filter to teach you a set of Jewish thinking patterns, let you through the Jewish head, get rid of the inertia of thinking and see a new future.

Liu Junyou (Fish) / Founder of Fresh Books

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[Excerpt 1 ] Exercise 1. Answer the child's question

When eating, the child looked at the water in the glass and asked, "Why is water transparent?" How would you answer?

"Why is the sky blue?" "Why can birds fly in the air?" "Why does the moon shine?" "Why is that uncle bald?" Children are always curious and interested in everything they see Stop asking: "Why?" "How can this happen?" Even if it is taken for granted by adults, or something that they dare not ask in order not to bother the other person, the child will not care to ask.

If you encounter such a problem, you will be speechless for a while, right? Back to the previous question. When the child asks, "Why is water transparent?" How would you answer?

a. Correct him and ask him not to talk when he eats: "This kind of thing doesn't matter. It's time to eat. Hurry up."

b. Tell him, "Water must be transparent!"

c. Ask him, "How did you think of this?" Think with him.

I think of the three possible responses. Those who choose a or b should pay attention to these two answers, I am afraid they have a strong refusal to think.

Why should we question common sense ?

They often don't think deeply and cause no trouble to daily life. In particular, things that are taken as common sense, taken for granted, social conventions, etc., can proceed smoothly with each other's tacit understanding without asking questions one by one and thinking thoroughly.

People are more comfortable with the status quo than thinking "why," usually because asking questions can hurt relationships. Because many people think that people who ask questions are not easy to get along with, or think that "it's an adult, you should be able to read and watch."

"Why is water transparent?" Falls into this category. Most adults will respond: Water is transparent, and that's it. Even so, how many people can really answer this question when asked? If you never think deeply about the reason "water is transparent," I'm afraid there are not many people who can say the right answer.

Because you ca n’t answer it, you secretly turn the topic into a question of politeness . Asking the other party to “concentrate on eating, do n’t talk about such boring words” is a symbol of “not thinking” .

Empirical inference is not thinking

Lack of thinking can sometimes cause irreversible things. In 2003, when the Columbia shuttle returned to the atmosphere, the body exploded and an air disintegration accident occurred, which killed seven astronauts. Why did this happen?

In the book "Country of Startups: Implications of Israel's Economic Miracle", a detailed investigation and study of the accident handling by the NASA ground team is introduced. It is recorded in the book that a problem found in the accident was that the rigid atmosphere at the scene limited discussions.

The direct cause of the explosion was obviously that when the space shuttle took off, the fragmented foam insulation material hit the left main wing and caused a hole. The problem is: It took two weeks between the time when the debris from the material collided with the left main wing at takeoff and the explosion when it returned to the atmosphere.

Are there no countermeasures to avoid the accident during these two weeks? In fact, I heard that an internal engineer at the time predicted that a tragedy might be caused, and proposed that the damage on the space shuttle should be confirmed and repaired quickly, but his proposal was rejected by the upper layers because in the past, the foam material caused damage to the body when the space shuttle took off, but there was no Cause any accident. The upper layer inferred from experience that the spalling should not be too serious, as long as the body is regularly maintained. Others don't have an engineer's sense of crisis, nor do they want to delve deeper into discussions, leading to the worst results.
Cultivate a discussion atmosphere from around

It was also a space shuttle launch accident. Compared to the Columbia tragedy, Apollo 13 was lucky to survive. Two days after the launch of Apollo 13 in 1970, one of the oxygen tanks exploded and it was thought that returning to Earth could be dangerous, but the NASA team responded to the situation and returned the astronauts safely.

What is the difference between the two events? The book "The Land of Startups" states the following: First, the Apollo 13 team has an environment in which ideas can be freely exchanged. Commander Kim Jin. Gene Kranz began to communicate ideas a few months before launch, not only within NASA, but also external contractors, in order to accumulate the maximum training effect.

They usually encourage the discussion of everything without taboos and create an environment where opinions can be heard and ideas heard from each other. In a constantly changing situation, no matter what matters, what is known, can be transformed into new wisdom through discussion. The ability to rescue Apollo 13 who everyone believes has fallen into despair is because the team is not afraid to discuss anything, even forbidden things.

Not only is this a critical moment in the face of a crisis, everyone should also be able to appreciate that failure to think can lead to organizational rigidity. The only way to avoid unthinking is to treat everything around you as an object of discussion, especially a problem that contradicts the social climate . From here, you can start to learn the first step of Jewish thinking, especially the topics that the world, society, companies, and friends can't seem to talk about, and you must seriously discuss them.

"Can whaling?" "How to prevent fathers from sexually assaulting their own daughters?" "Is Islam a religion of peace?" "Is it possible to treat lightly the religion of others as freedom of expression?" "Nobel China There are fewer winners than Japan, so are they inferior races? "" What is the difference between the brutality of ISIS and the Japanese army during World War II? " Is it human? "

Discussing such topics in public is really difficult, you can discuss with friends and family first. Why is it difficult for society to openly discuss things at home? Because discussions can be easily sharpened, although this is the result of thinking about operations.

[Excerpt 2 ] Exercise 15. Return of the treat

You are preparing to meet with the Jews. As soon as the meeting time came, the Jews bought a well-known coffee nearby and invited you. Just before the meeting was about to end, the Jews said a few words about coffee money.

Question: His words are very Jewish. What did the Jew say?

This is a real incident when I met with a Jewish business partner. The Jews said, "I bought this coffee for you. What can you expect from me?"

Ordinary people may think "how can there be such a cheeky person?" In Eastern society, preparing coffee for guests is a matter of course, and it is a shame to talk to others about money, because as long as you negotiate a big business in the future, coffee is not a small money. what.

Worrying about feelings will keep you from making money

However, the Jews did not think so. Assuming the cup of coffee is worth nine hundred yen, the Jews hope that this meeting will make him thirty million yen.

The Jews thoroughly pursued short-term interests and examined carefully how much they could gain. If an hour-long meeting doesn't work, they may say they don't need to see each other next time. The Jewish position is extremely clear. They wouldn't think, "Nine hundred yen on this day might bring about 100 million yen in three years."

"Where can I make money?" Is the focus of the Jews. The next story, Exercise 16: Napoleon and Herring, shares the same idea.


[Excerpt 3 ] Exercise 25. Soldiers and passports <br /> Ethiopia in North Africa also has Jews. In the late 1980s, Ethiopia's military regime arrested domestic Jews. All Jews were detained because they had nothing to eat and were on the verge of starvation.

One of the arrested Jews escaped from prison without notice. That day he hid in the farmhouse and didn't move towards the border until late at night. He hid before the sun rose, and continued on the road in the dark at night. For several days, he finally left the prison and got on the bus.

I didn't expect to encounter a temporary checkpoint halfway, the bus was forced to stop, and two soldiers came up. The soldier shouted with a machine gun: "Everyone listen, take out your passport or identity document! Hold up your document and hold it up. The undocumented guy is a suspicious person. We will shoot directly!"

The rabbi escaped without holding anything, and if the soldiers found it, his life would end there. Fortunately, Rabbi's seat was at the rear of the bus, and there were two or three minutes for the soldiers to come. Rabbi desperately tried to find a way, and Jizhong Shengzhi took action from the dead.
Question: If you are a rabbi, how do you get out of this danger?

This is the real event that the rabbi in the story told me personally. The Jews never gave up even in such a desperate situation, they racked their brains for opportunities to survive.

Rabbi finally stood up and collected the passports of the passengers around him. After receiving about fifteen passports, I gave all the passports to the soldiers who came along the aisle. "All passengers, including me, are here. You worked hard." The sudden move made the soldiers think that the citizen in front of him I myself, so I returned my passport to Rabbi after I turned it around. "Okay!" The soldier got off the bus after speaking.

Fear caused Rabbi to panic until his heartbeat almost stopped. Later, the rabbi crossed the border safely and successfully fled a boat from the Mediterranean to Israel. According to him, the flight lasted for a month.

In a matter of minutes, whether he could survive or not, how did he come up with this solution? In order to prevent the soldiers from finding that he has no passport, Rabbi thought that as long as he played a supporting role and handed in the passports of all the passengers for inspection, he might be able to fool the soldiers, so he stood up and pretended to help collect the passports of others.

The soldier must have never imagined that a suspicious character dared to do such a big move, so he believed the rabbi, and he was too lucky to not have a passport to compare with himself.

Working with the enemy <br /> Suspicious character? Or a facilitator? Regardless of the fact, there are many ways to blur others' perception of the fact. This bold approach stems from the fact that the viewing angle is different from the dimension. You must be used to observing things in different dimensions in order to escape from the second dimension to the perspective of God.

At first glance it is a hostile relationship, but from God ’s point of view, it can also be your own.

Another easy-to-understand example. In the sales market, for products that most consumers do not yet know, they are mutually restrained by competitors and competitors. Cooperating to enlarge the market can bring benefits to each other, which is a "win-win". Turning the enemy into one's own person can change the immediate deadlock.

A new form of anticancer agent developed by Jewish researchers at the Israel Institute of Technology is a good example.

Another problem-oriented problem. <br /> Traditionally, the mainstream of anticancer agents has been oral or injection. The goal is to effectively attack cancer cells with molecular target drugs. However, although the target is cancer cells, normal cells similar to cancer cells are also attacked, and the problem of side effects cannot be avoided. The major issue in the development of anticancer agents is how to reduce side effects and improve the accuracy of the anticancer agents in attacking cancer cells.

But the Jewish scholar thought otherwise. He does not treat cancer cells as enemies, but treats cancer cells as his own, so instead of attacking cancer cells with anticancer agents, he lets cancer cells make anticancer agents themselves.

Cancer cells will strongly absorb nutrients in the human body and continue to proliferate. This Jewish scholar wants to use its strong absorption to inject nano substances into cancer cells, so that the cancer cells themselves become anti-cancer agent manufacturing factories, and finally because of their own anti-cancer Died, this is his theory.

This new cancer treatment has attracted worldwide attention and attracted a lot of investment. So far, people have been working to improve the accuracy of anticancer agents in attacking cancer cells. However, there is a limit to improving the accuracy. If you are persistent, it is difficult to change the problem of side effects. The Jewish scholar thinks with a broader perspective, focusing on the fact that cancer cells absorb nutrients from the human body to proliferate. He no longer insists that anticancer agents and cancer cells can only be hostile. Instead, he treats cancer cells as his own , letting cancer cells. The body produces anticancer agents and conducts suicide bombers.

Can we achieve this by "turning hostility into friendship"? Try to think like this and find a way out for yourself.